No Limits

“I don’t have any limits, Miss!” Self-exploration with an open mind is key to creating a scene in which we both feel safe. How can you possibly consent to everything I could potentially do to you, when you haven’t gotten to know me yet? If you decided to skydive, you wouldn’t skip the safety video, […]

3 in the bed you your partner the kinks you wont tell them about

Three in the bed You, your partner & the kinks they don’t know you’re into No matter what stage of your relationship, dating, long-term or fully committed, sharing your innermost taboo secrets with someone will seem like the most nerve-wracking thing in the world. But what if I told you the conversation could open you […]

Giving to receive or just giving

BDSM Etiquette – Gift Giving Everyone loves being spoiled but with your Domme, the stakes are a little higher.  have put together an invaluable little list of ways to gift your Domme, and just as importantly – how not to. I know this makes us sound high maintenance… that’s because we are! But this is […]

5 Reasons Why Your D/s Relationship Is Failing

And How To Save It It’s sad that I not only lose subs from time to time, but that I hear about it over and over from my Domme friends. Finding your perfect play partner is such a miracle, the amount of effort you put into finding a Dominant, the hours of searching. To find […]

Weakness

Is Submission A Weakness? BDSM still has far too many aspects that are misunderstood There are parts of the Dominatrix community that conflate ‘loser’ with ‘submissive’. Addressing someone that is submissive as ‘weak’ or a ‘pathetic loser’ outside of a consented humiliation session is ignorant.  “Kink is a celebration of the strongest but most subverted […]

Foot Fetish

Foot Fetish Are you always looking down? Are you  always looking down? The one who I catch catching a glimpse in Tesco. Only you’re so busy you don’t see my knowing smile. I see you, I get you. I love to tease you.  What struck you? Was it just my confidence in general that made […]

Clients

BDSM Online Can you *really* experience BDSM online? Social media and online communications have enhanced the ability establish meaningful relationships online, and this includes meaningful BDSM relationships. But for a long time, there has been a debate about whether these online connections can truly provide an authentic human connection. Of course, face-to-face interactions are better, […]

Floggers

Floggers As I stride seductively toward my wall of tools you can see Me pause once, the armoury is within reach. It’s time choose. My mind flashes over each implement and I carefully select one based on the person, the stage of the session, and the affinity I have for each tool. I have My favourites, […]

How To Measure For A Chastity Cage

Measuring For A Chastity Cage The cage will only be as good as your measurements It’s important to remember you don’t always need a cage to engage in self-denial, you just need some effort. In fact, the more complex a cage is the more problems can arise. While different fits will provide different experiences if […]