BDSM blog

Thoughts on BDSM, fetish and... ethics.

The Countess offers her thoughts on BDSM, fetish, dominant and submissive relationships… as well as ethics and chastity.

“Part of being me is a need to champion things I believe in. To get the word out there and discuss the larger meaning of our existence, our wants and our desires in a thoughtful, practical way. Devoid of stereotypes, condemnation and judgement.

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Feminism 5.0

Are you a man that only supports the idea of female supremacy when you’re horny? Or do you actually feel like women should have more power and a louder voice about things that affect them in general?

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All My Thoughts

The most read and shared BDSM blogs from Bristols top BDSM Mistress, Countess Diamond. 

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Back to BDSM basics

The BDSM community can seem alien when you first encounter it, but all it takes is a little patience and some basic research. This is not the Illuminati, or the Masons – there is no ritual, human sacrifice or handshake to get in – you just have to learn how to interact with people all over again.

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“I don’t have any limits, Miss!”

A statement that genuinely makes my full body shudder. You think you’re telling me “I’m the biggest, bravest submissive you’ve ever met!”. When in reality it reads as “I haven’t thought this through enough” or worse “I don’t care about myself”.

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Why Chastity is Freedom (for you!)

There is no doubt about it, sexual desires are distracting. At the worst possible time, that little prick shaped bit of your brain pings and there you are, off in fantasy land with last month’s paperwork piling up beside you in the home office while you once again wander off to your favourite subscription site with your hand in your pants. Sufficiently jerked off, you wash your hands and wipe the sweat from your brow before logging in to that Zoom call.

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3 in the bed. You, your partner & the kinks you won’t tell them about!

No matter what stage of your relationship, dating, long-term or fully committed, sharing your innermost taboo secrets with someone will seem like the most nerve-wracking thing in the world. But what if I told you the conversation could open you up to experiences you previously thought weren’t possible? What if the conversation led to foreplay or better yet raw, red-hot kinky sex!

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Chastity

Chastity Keyholding

Chastity is next level submission, but the pleasure of denial is well with the effort. Countess diamond is an experienced and knowledgeable chastity keyholder.

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Giving to receive or just giving?

ALL women love being spoiled from time to time, but when it’s a Domme, the stakes are a little higher. I have put together an invaluable little list of ways to gift your Domme, and just as importantly – how not to.

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The Other Woman

Thrills can come from every avenue of our dark minds. Sexual tendencies aren’t linear and what you considered entirely off limits at first may be your current hottest high. This goes for exposure, ruination, home wreaking and blackmail too. Some clients invite this, they crave it.

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March Madness – Porn Playoffs

In March 2021, I will be pitting fetishes against each other in a tournament which will determine the ultimate kink. Which fetish will be crowned Best Kink 2021? You decide.

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How to deal with disharmony

When you begin engaging the services of a sex worker, you understand there is a transaction for services rendered. That’s how it starts, over time you can build up a great, mutually beneficial relationship. Some of these secret relationships can go on for years, they can blossom into what appears to be a friendship. Anyone who has successfully navigated a long-standing D/s with a Pro-Domme will have made mistakes along the way. We expect these mistakes, we can even forgive some occasionally.

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Is Zelophilia the gateway to cuckolding?

Zelophilia – is this the gateway to cuckolding?

Zelophilia is the name for sexual arousal arising from feelings of jealousy. Jealousy is an incendiary emotion. It feels like a grenade, but for those with a cuck fantasy, they are willingly throwing themselves on the bomb as it goes off. They are absorbing and repurposing the damage that rips through them.

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Shame on, you crazy Diamond.

Shame works so well in a BDSM play scene. The place where all dirty, shunned and taboo activities are allowed to breathe and be celebrated, insults add a finishing touch to the party. Because you are accepting your vulnerability, fully owning it all.

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Naked Domination

Clothing and the lack of, is a powerful tool when establishing a power exchange… does this mean a naked Domme is less imposing? Less dominant?

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The Office Role Play

A BDSM office role play doesnt take much imagination. A well-known hotbed of illicit affairs, with a hierarchy pre-installed, the power dynamic of an office role play is all set up and ready to go.

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Chastity Focus

Chastity, is one of Countess Diamond’s favourite fetishes. It’s versatile, effective and accessible and best of all can be done very discreetly. Delve into one of the most teasing, yet rewarding of all the fetishes. 

Latex Focus

There is something about this material that works so well with the dungeon scene and the kink parties, its like a layer of us that we can apply or peel off, as we switch between the two worlds. But latex is as sensitive, exasperating and difficult at times as your Mistress can be.

Fetish Focus

From the basics in bondage, to exploring the darkest taboos. Here you will find all sorts of specific fetishes from the mainstream, niche and extra naughty sides of BDSM life.

Dynamics Focus

Understanding the nuanced social dynamics as well as protocol and etiquette within BDSM is never going to be easy. This narrative, from Countess Diamonds perspective is an account her of experience, thoughts and relationships and not intended to be the final word on such subjects.

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