Thoughts on BDSM, fetish and ethics.
The Countess offers her thoughts on BDSM, fetish, dominant and submissive relationships… as well as ethics and chastity.
“Part of being me is a need to champion things I believe in. To get the word out there and discuss the larger meaning of our existence, our wants and our desires in a thoughtful, practical way. Devoid of stereotypes, condemnation and judgement.“
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Chastity Tips and Tricks
All the tips and tricks, from the industry experts to seasoned locked servants.
Feminism 5.0
Are you a man that only supports the idea of female supremacy when you’re horny? Or do you actually feel like women should have more power and a louder voice about things that affect them in general?
All My Thoughts
The most read and shared BDSM blogs from Bristols top BDSM Mistress, Countess Diamond.
Gross Chastity Side Effects
Chastity isn’t always fun and easy! Here are some of the grossest and weirdest side effects you could experience while locked in chastity.
Back to BDSM basics
The BDSM community can seem alien when you first encounter it, but all it takes is a little patience and some basic research. This is not the Illuminati, or the Masons – there is no ritual, human sacrifice or handshake to get in – you just have to learn how to interact with people all over again.
“I don’t have any limits, Miss!”
A statement that genuinely makes my full body shudder. You think you’re telling me “I’m the biggest, bravest submissive you’ve ever met!”. When in reality it reads as “I haven’t thought this through enough” or worse “I don’t care about myself”.
Why Chastity is Freedom (for you!)
There is no doubt about it, sexual desires are distracting. At the worst possible time, that little prick shaped bit of your brain pings and there you are, off in fantasy land with last month’s paperwork piling up beside you in the home office while you once again wander off to your favourite subscription site with your hand in your pants. Sufficiently jerked off, you wash your hands and wipe the sweat from your brow before logging in to that Zoom call.
3 in the bed. You, your partner & the kinks you won’t tell them about!
No matter what stage of your relationship, dating, long-term or fully committed, sharing your innermost taboo secrets with someone will seem like the most nerve-wracking thing in the world. But what if I told you the conversation could open you up to experiences you previously thought weren’t possible? What if the conversation led to foreplay or better yet raw, red-hot kinky sex!
Locktober 2021
You crave Her control and She craves controlling you. Countess Diamond has the encouragement, experience and “rewards” to get you through.
Giving to receive or just giving?
ALL women love being spoiled from time to time, but when it’s a Domme, the stakes are a little higher. I have put together an invaluable little list of ways to gift your Domme, and just as importantly – how not to.
Long term BDSM relationships.
When we begin our kink journeys, we all hope to find someone we can share it all with, who is just as into the stuff you’re into, as you are.
March Madness: Porn Playoff Contenders
The wait is over – following my live stream yesterday on AVN Stars, I can now announce the kinks that will be competing in March Madness – The Porn Playoffs 2021
The Other Woman
Thrills can come from every avenue of our dark minds. Sexual tendencies aren’t linear and what you considered entirely off limits at first may be your current hottest high. This goes for exposure, ruination, home wreaking and blackmail too. Some clients invite this, they crave it.
March Madness – Porn Playoffs
In March 2021, I will be pitting fetishes against each other in a tournament which will determine the ultimate kink. Which fetish will be crowned Best Kink 2021? You decide.
How to deal with disharmony
When you begin engaging the services of a sex worker, you understand there is a transaction for services rendered. That’s how it starts, over time you can build up a great, mutually beneficial relationship. Some of these secret relationships can go on for years, they can blossom into what appears to be a friendship. Anyone who has successfully navigated a long-standing D/s with a Pro-Domme will have made mistakes along the way. We expect these mistakes, we can even forgive some occasionally.
Zelophilia – is this the gateway to cuckolding?
Zelophilia is the name for sexual arousal arising from feelings of jealousy. Jealousy is an incendiary emotion. It feels like a grenade, but for those with a cuck fantasy, they are willingly throwing themselves on the bomb as it goes off. They are absorbing and repurposing the damage that rips through them.
Shame on, you crazy Diamond.
Shame works so well in a BDSM play scene. The place where all dirty, shunned and taboo activities are allowed to breathe and be celebrated, insults add a finishing touch to the party. Because you are accepting your vulnerability, fully owning it all.
Naked Domination
Clothing and the lack of, is a powerful tool when establishing a power exchange… does this mean a naked Domme is less imposing? Less dominant?
The Office Role Play
A BDSM office role play doesnt take much imagination. A well-known hotbed of illicit affairs, with a hierarchy pre-installed, the power dynamic of an office role play is all set up and ready to go.
Denim
Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.
Duality
Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.
A Lion’s Tale
Happiness isn’t always going to find you, sometimes you’ve got to work for it.
How to Play Safe in BDSM
Whether you are planning to engage in BDSM games with a professional or a lifestyle partner, safety should come up in conversation before the first strike lands, or lock clicks. Personal responsibility and communication is vitally important in a fulfilling D/s.
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Chastity Focus
Chastity, is one of Countess Diamond’s favourite fetishes. It’s versatile, effective and accessible and best of all can be done very discreetly. Delve into one of the most teasing, yet rewarding of all the fetishes.
Latex Focus
There is something about this material that works so well with the dungeon scene and the kink parties, its like a layer of us that we can apply or peel off, as we switch between the two worlds. But latex is as sensitive, exasperating and difficult at times as your Mistress can be.
Fetish Focus
From the basics in bondage, to exploring the darkest taboos. Here you will find all sorts of specific fetishes from the mainstream, niche and extra naughty sides of BDSM life.
Dynamics Focus
Understanding the nuanced social dynamics as well as protocol and etiquette within BDSM is never going to be easy. This narrative, from Countess Diamonds perspective is an account her of experience, thoughts and relationships and not intended to be the final word on such subjects.
