Thoughts on BDSM, fetish and... ethics.
The Countess offers her thoughts on BDSM, fetish, dominant and submissive relationships… as well as ethics and chastity.
“Part of being me is a need to champion things I believe in. To get the word out there and discuss the larger meaning of our existence, our wants and our desires in a thoughtful, practical way. Devoid of stereotypes, condemnation and judgement.“
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The most read and shared BDSM blogs from Bristols top BDSM Mistress, Countess Diamond.
Thrills can come from every avenue of our dark minds. Sexual tendencies aren’t linear and what you considered entirely off limits at first may be your current hottest high. This goes for exposure, ruination, home wreaking and blackmail too. Some clients invite this, they crave it.
When you begin engaging the services of a sex worker, you understand there is a transaction for services rendered. That’s how it starts, over time you can build up a great, mutually beneficial relationship. Some of these secret relationships can go on for years, they can blossom into what appears to be a friendship. Anyone who has successfully navigated a long-standing D/s with a Pro-Domme will have made mistakes along the way. We expect these mistakes, we can even forgive some occasionally.
Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.
It’s basic kinky etiquette to consider your partner in the chosen activity and scene. Never is this more important than with anal play. I can tell if someone has tried (or not) or if someone has rushed it. The last thing either of us wants is for a session to end before it’s even begun.
What a shit show of a year guys and girls!
Earlier this month I was filling out my planner for 2021 and right at the start there’s a 2020 review section to reflect and summarise the best bits, your successes. I’ll be honest, it’s looking rather light.
It was the Mackintosh particularly that elevated this most exotic of substances from mere clothing material into something far more sensual and sexual. The ability of latex to act as a shiny, tactile, sexy, second skin revolutionised sexuality within clothing. Thus, encouraging and enticing an ever-growing number of latex wear fetishists and enthusiasts.
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Chastity, is one of Countess Diamond’s favourite fetishes. It’s versatile, effective and accessible and best of all can be done very discreetly. Delve into one of the most teasing, yet rewarding of all the fetishes.
There is something about this material that works so well with the dungeon scene and the kink parties, its like a layer of us that we can apply or peel off, as we switch between the two worlds. But latex is as sensitive, exasperating and difficult at times as your Mistress can be.
From the basics in bondage, to exploring the darkest taboos. Here you will find all sorts of specific fetishes from the mainstream, niche and extra naughty sides of BDSM life.
Understanding the nuanced social dynamics as well as protocol and etiquette within BDSM is never going to be easy. This narrative, from Countess Diamonds perspective is an account her of experience, thoughts and relationships and not intended to be the final word on such subjects.