Why Chastity is Freedom (for you!)

There is no doubt about it, sexual desires are distracting. At the worst possible time, that little prick shaped bit of your brain pings and there you are, off in fantasy land with last month’s paperwork piling up beside you in the home office while you once again wander off to your favourite subscription site with your hand in your pants. Sufficiently jerked off, you wash your hands and wipe the sweat from your brow before logging in to that Zoom call.

How long before your mind wanders back to porn, your dick twitching away like the hands on a grandfather clock, impatiently waiting to hear the words “meeting adjourned”?

"While I have a good grasp on psychology, I am not a psychologist"

When does that become a problem? Where do you hold up your stop signs to your urges? 

Our sexual desires are on an almost impossible spectrum, where there is no ‘normal’. Whether you have sex regularly or not, it is important to try to recognise within yourself what your needs are, whether they are being met or if the thoughts are more frequent, intrusive and bothersome than you want them to be. 

Within the BDSM community, it can be a never-ending debate of obsession vs. dedication or adoration, with advertising and marketing often playing on the alluring, yet addictive and demanding, humiliatrix that controls your every move and decision. The reality of an FLR or D/s ownership relationship is far from the short, phallically fulfilling fantasy often portrayed in clips online. Communication is vital, and your mental health needs to be regarded as important as your physical health if you are to attend a dungeon session. 

If I feel you are not in the right frame of mind to serve, and you perhaps need to delve deeper into your sexual desires and behaviours, I will ask that you seek this advice professionally and medically. I care greatly about positive mental health in kink; while I have a good grasp on psychology, I am not a psychologist. I am sure you would not (or at least, should not) ask your therapist to crack the whip. 

If your fantasies come from a place of excitement and exploration, with a sprinkle of your own education, then my dear, I am here to fill in the blanks. It is important to me that you have had a self-analysis on your kink identity before approaching to serve in any capacity. That you have thought about your own boundaries and recognised that I too, will have My own.

"What is acceptable? What is normal? Who decides?"

A kink is defined as a sexual activity that falls outside of sex that society traditionally considers “acceptable.” A statement that poses many questions – What is acceptable? What is normal? Who decides? There is no one size fits all answer as to why we have the kinks we do. It is a complex mix of human nature, influential social cultures and pure, glorious fascination.

Perhaps it all started at school? Your strict yet beautiful and intelligent geography teacher wore striking stilettos that drove you wild. Or was it all those high-intensity art heist movies? Someone always ended up duct taped to a chair! There’s no rule book, and it’s not only kinky if it was developed throughout puberty either – you could still discover a new kink or delve deeper into the ones you already have an interest in.

When we talk about the difference between a kink and a fetish, it is not that your kink has developed into an uncontrollable beast. It just means things have progressed within your desires, you now need the item, object or body part in order to feel sexually excited, be that feet, latex or fishnet stockings – they’re all popular paraphilia but remember, balance is key!

With your kinks, fetishes and boundaries all lined up in a row in front of you, it can be easy to fall into a world of dungeons and dominatrices, leaving the boring vanilla world behind, especially if you are at the very start of your journey or with an exciting, new superior. A D/s relationship should be fulfilling, and your life should only be improved by it. This can only be achieved with the communication of your commitments, openly and honestly, and is your personal responsibility. 

Wanking all day or offering cum tributes does not actually do anything to serve me, improve my life or your own. If your primary focus is your cock, then chastity is about to be the most freeing experience you could imagine. Daily life with no expectation of climax from every interaction will be a different type of relief for you and you will become more attuned to my desires (or your partner’s). Whilst there will be times I will tease and torment your locked up little member, the goal isn’t sexual frustration. It is all about freedom, knowing that it is all in her hands instead of your own for a change.

I’m well versed in denial, mental abstinence, chastity and keyholding. Whilst it may not work for everyone, those that are curious about chastity or drawn to a deeper level of subservience and have the mental stamina will find that I am dedicated to your personal improvement through my direction and encouragement, even if the idea may be rather daunting.

 We can have an in-depth discussion over at Countess Diamond | AVN Starswhere I will tailor a training program to suit your lifestyle. We will start slowly, so that I may monitor your resilience and determination to overcome any mental obstacles. We begin with some spells of mental abstinence to build trust and self-control. Different submissives will progress at different rates during the training period, and everyone has different time constraints, so be sure to communicate these openly with me. Once you are ready to add another layer to submission, quite literally, you can spend time deciding on the correct device. I would encourage you to visit  KINKPLAY and have a look through their huge selection (Discount code: countessdiamond2020). 

Now, that liberation from sexual frustration I was talking about before doesn’t switch on as soon as you snap that numerical lock on your shiny new metal cage. There will be days that seem endless, with hopeless frustrations seeming to threaten an eruption through-out your body and you may even feel emotional – it is a good job you are not doing it alone!

If you are dedicated to your own journey and to my delicious denial, you will experience the significant long term benefits of extended chastity, including clarity, mental peace, improved productivity, increased devotion and, best of all, those self-serving male traits and constant states of arousal will be gone!

Are you ready to conquer the never-ending quest for sexual gratification with a lock and key?

I have 2 groups on AVN dedicated to giving you the training, encouragement & thrills needed to level up your sub game.

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