Twisted Fire Starter

I also remember at school, the attraction I felt to the orange flame of the Bunsen burner. Everybody did it, the  quick fingertip dash through the not-too-hot flame. It felt so naughty and brave. There is an element of danger in pushing your boundaries and challenging the authority of the parent or teacher who told you that it’s dangerous. The truth is we never really grow up, we just get a little smarter about the risks we take and hopefully learn from our mistakes. 

Wax play, with a lit candle is the perfect way to explore some of the feelings we have learnt to associate with fire …danger, fascination, the reckless abandonment of rules. It is because of these associations that it works very well in a D/s play scene. As practitioners and consumers of this marginal world we embody the danger, risk taking and thrill seeking nature of a twisted firestarter. 

Flames, and indeed candles can be a subtle, yet perfectly painful way to hurt you. A small, harmless looking flame, that dances atop a purpose made candle for contact with the skin. Visually it is a treat, held in my hand as I loom above you. That soft glow of light from the candle illuminating me, flickering over my features and curves, I may look almost angelic, until I start to tilt it and the wax begins to drip… drip… drip. 

If I vary the distance between the candle and your skin I can ramp up or ease the pain level. So if your pain thresholds are low this is not a no-go area of play, I can simply adjust the distance, and make it feel warm rather than volcanic. I may start on your chest, to warm you up gently. Or I may be impatient for your wriggles this time and land it straight on your genitals with controlled precision, decorating your burning body making you a work of (painful) art. This is immensely satisfying for me, I always take great joy in making pain beautiful. With wax I can create patterns, mix colours, splash and pour.