All the BDSM Blogs by Countess Diamond
Countess Diamond offers her thoughts on BDSM, fetish, dominant and submissive relationships, as well as ethics and chastity.
“Part of being me is a need to champion things I believe in. To get the word out there and discuss the larger meaning of our existence, our wants and our desires in a thoughtful, practical way. Devoid of stereotypes, condemnation and judgement.“
Why I Adore Kink3D: A Game-Changer in Modern Chastity
I value precision, innovation, and elegance in every aspect of my life—including when it comes to chastity devices. That’s why when the team at Kink3D sent me their full range of exquisitely 3D-printed chastity cages, I couldn’t wait to try them out and share my thoughts with you.
Leather in BDSM – A Dominatrix’s Perspective
Leather has long been a symbol of power, submission and desire.
Debt Contracts – Fully Automated Findom
Debt contracts, automated findom, and financial domination from a mistress, like you’ve never know before.
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What is Subspace?
This neurochemical high can vary in intensity and duration. All BDSM players need to be aware of how to move forward, without a chemical crash.
Latex – Origins, History & Fashion
It was the Mackintosh particularly that elevated this most exotic of substances from mere clothing material into something far more sensual and sexual.
Measure for a chastity cage
If you’re buying a chastity cage for the first time don’t be tempted to add to your measurements. Adding more room for comfort or less to enhance the experience can easily lead to an ill-fitting device.
Common Chastity Myths
There are heaps of things that may or may not happen while wearing a chastity cage, here are some common urban legends and myths
Chastity Cages For Beginners
Chastity cages enhance the feeling of confinement and therefore submission. Here are some cages to get you started.
Why meet a dominatrix?
The best thing about BDSM in a professional setting, is that you should be able to finally set your true self free.
A Session Review
Sessioning with a Dominatrix is a one of a kind experience, read this lucky submissives journey here.
A Piglet’s Tale – Findom and Financial Control
Happiness isn’t always going to find you, sometimes you’ve got to work for it.
Bluetooth Chastity Lock – review
Chastity enthusiast Carumbad reviews the KeyPod digital key safe made by QIUI.
Becoming A Chastity Slave
Thoughts from a sub’s first Locktober: Chastity has always been something of an interest of mine, though for years it was essentially an academic one.
Fetish Wear Appropriation
Sex workers are unable to live and work freely yet our work uniform is paraded on the Met Gala carpet as a gimmick.
Hiding Your Kinks
Are you are struggling as a “double-lifer”? A grown adult, and you’re still hiding your kinks from the world. You’re not alone.
Diary of a Pregnant Dominatrix
In the hope that this aids the destigmatisation of consensual erotic labour and assists and educates those in the industry who might be about to embark on parenthood. I have decided to speak freely about my own experience.
My Love of Latex
It beautifully accentuates curves and makes the wearer look instantly more fierce.
Poppers
If you are considering introducing poppers to your kinky play, take a moment to read this before diving in.
The future of SW inBristol
Fight for fairness & equality You can help sex workers keep their workplaces open. On the 31st March 2022, Edinburgh City Council voted in favor of a ‘nil-cap’ on ‘Sexual Entertainment Venue’ (known as SEVs) licenses. The council claims this cap is needed due to
Locktober
You crave Her control and She craves controlling you. Countess Diamond has the encouragement, experience and “rewards” to get you through.
Chastity Tips and Tricks
Chastity advice, tips, and tricks, from the industry experts to seasoned locked servants.
Aftercare
I truly hope you all find a Dominant or play partner that cares about you after a scene.
Body Confidence
With someone to hold you accountable, encourage exercise, and push you to make smarter decisions… you could change your life.
Financial Control – Findom, with a Mistress
Countess Diamond is here to help create a plan to achieve your financial goals and improve your overall financial well-being.
Feminism 5.0
Are you a man that only supports the idea of female supremacy when you’re horny?
Locktober – Roundup
I want nothing more than to see you achieve great things, have willpower, have strength and conviction!
Gross Chastity Side Effects
Chastity isn’t always fun and easy! Here are some of the grossest and weirdest side effects you could experience while locked in chastity.
What is BDSM
The BDSM community can seem alien when you first encounter it, but all it takes is a little patience and some basic research.
No Limits
Self-exploration with an open mind is key to creating a scene in which we both feel safe.
Why Chastity?
To put it simply; it’s a power exchange. Imagine handing over control of something that’s so intrinsic to your identity, routine, and freedom.
Three in the bed
Before you even attempt this potentially sex life changing conversation, you will want to be prepared. If you have read my other blogs you will know the importance of researching the kinks that get you excited, and exploring your own submissiveness.
BDSM Etiquette – Gift Giving
An invaluable guide to gifting your Domme, and just as importantly – how not to.
Long-Term BDSM relationships
When we begin our kink journeys, we all hope to find someone we can share it all with, who is just as into the stuff you’re into, as you are.
Blackmail and home wrecking
Exposure, ruination, home wreaking and blackmail. Some submissives invite this, they crave it.
Disharmony In D/s
When you begin engaging the services of a sex worker, you understand there is a transaction for services rendered. That’s how it starts, over time you can build up a great, mutually beneficial relationship
Zelophilia
Zelophilia is the name for sexual arousal arising from feelings of jealousy. Jealousy is an incendiary emotion. It feels like a grenade, but for those with a cuck fantasy, they are willingly throwing themselves on the bomb as it goes off.
Shame on, you crazy Diamond.
Shame works so well in a BDSM play scene. The place where all dirty, shunned and taboo activities are allowed to breathe and be celebrated, insults add a finishing touch to the party. Because you are accepting your vulnerability, fully owning it all.
Naked Domination
Clothing and the lack of, is a powerful tool when establishing a power exchange… does this mean a naked Domme is less imposing? Less dominant?
The Office Role Play
A BDSM office role play doesnt take much imagination. A well-known hotbed of illicit affairs, with a hierarchy pre-installed, the power dynamic of an office role play is all set up and ready to go.
Denim
Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.
A Lion’s Tale
Happiness isn’t always going to find you, sometimes you’ve got to work for it.
Safety in BDSM
Personal responsibility and communication is vitally important in a fulfilling D/s.
Wax Play
As a race we have been fascinated by fire since we first discovered it… it’s dangerous, it’s mesmerising. Who hasn’t found themselves lost in the glow of a fire? Or drawn in to stoking it, adding logs to a campfire and watching them as they crumble to ash.
Mommy Issues- Exploring the Oedipus complex.
Much like a mother, I try to keep you safe and control your negative behaviours. Offering reassurance and stern levels of care, I am often a guide and looked to for answers – all while looking beautifully poised and put together.
Make It A December To Remember
When you were a kid, Christmas meant new toys! Such joy and expectation on Christmas Eve. waiting for the big man to creep into your bedroom (how did this not get classified as stranger danger!!?) Life was full of surprises and that made everything exciting. But, as we know all too well, that festive excitement fades as we get older, toys get boring and you’ve never got the right batteries at home when you need them!
Smoking Fetish
A villainess like me, with a flagrant disrespect for rules, that deliberately kicks against gender stereotypes and roles – hell yeah I smoke. A cigarette suggests an impervious layer of self assurance, that the smoker is a fearless risk taker. It’s a natural prop for my world.
Even talking about cigarettes is sexy. The words used to describe smoking are well….hot! Watching a woman smoking in person can be highly erotic and there is a growing demand for the Smoking fetish, both as part of my sessions and as a stand-alone kink.
Ownership and Rules
Being owned by a Dominatrix isn’t an easy job, but is a very rewarding one.
My Top 5 kinks
His physical suffering at my hand is my ultimate turn on. My aim is good, but I’d rather administer pain with my body somehow, than with an object.
Pain and pleasure
Pain is not just about body parts and nerve endings, it’s the output of the brain, the response that is designed to protect you.
5 reasons why
As the D/s relationship evolves, things can and will change. It’s part of the process.
Anticipation V’s Reality
You start off knowing theres something you want. The perfect scene with the the perfect partner, all the details are there.
Foot Fetish
As far as fetishes go, a sexual interest in feet is becoming more mainstream, and from what I hear it often leads you down the tunnel to further kinks.
Your First BDSM Session
Advice for approaching your first BDSM session with the Dominatrix Countess Diamond.
Is Submission A Weakness?
It takes so much strength of character to step over the line, past the point of no return into my dominion.
BDSM Equipment – Floggers
Make no mistake, these inauspicious tools make up for their small stature with a deliciously rapturous sting.
Sub & Domme Drop
Its that unwritten Duty of Care we have to keep in mind, that’s what you are really paying for. That while you think we are lost in that moment with you, we aren’t.
BDSM Online
As technology continues to advance, we can expect to see even more opportunities for us to connect in more meaningful ways.
Investing
Why you need to make measured and careful moves in your search for a Domme.
Latex Care
Take care of what you love and it will love you back with interest. Latex is an investment for both both sides of the dungeon divide so here I have created a quick guide to the care and protection of this lush shiny stuff I call home.
What is Findom?
Findom is a fetish practice where one person derives pleasure from giving gifts or money to another person.
Necessity is the Mother of Invention
This is particularly true at the moment, with everyone trying to find ways to mimic the things we miss in the real world. While you are housebound, you may be tempted to contact me for some online BDSM play.
Online Submission
We do have to be thankful that we live in the rapidly expanding digital age. We have options, and I am determined to push online play to the edge.
Online Chastity Keyholder
Online chastity keyholding is ideal for those looking to explore online chastity with a Dominatrix.
