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Bristol Mistress, Countess Diamond offers her thoughts on BDSM, fetish, dominant and submissive relationships, as well as ethics and chastity.
“Part of being me is a need to champion things I believe in. To get the word out there and discuss the larger meaning of our existence, our wants and our desires in a thoughtful, practical way. Devoid of stereotypes, condemnation and judgement.“
How To Make Money on AVN Stars
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Gross Chastity Side Effects
Chastity isn’t always fun and easy! Here are some of the grossest and weirdest side effects you could experience while locked in chastity.
Back to BDSM basics
The BDSM community can seem alien when you first encounter it, but all it takes is a little patience and some basic research. This is not the Illuminati, or the Masons – there is no ritual, human sacrifice or handshake to get in – you just have to learn how to interact with people all over again.
“I don’t have any limits, Miss!”
A statement that genuinely makes my full body shudder. You think you’re telling me “I’m the biggest, bravest submissive you’ve ever met!”. When in reality it reads as “I haven’t thought this through enough” or worse “I don’t care about myself”.
Why Chastity is Freedom (for you!)
There is no doubt about it, sexual desires are distracting. At the worst possible time, that little prick shaped bit of your brain pings and there you are, off in fantasy land with last month’s paperwork piling up beside you in the home office while you once again wander off to your favourite subscription site with your hand in your pants. Sufficiently jerked off, you wash your hands and wipe the sweat from your brow before logging in to that Zoom call.
3 in the bed. You, your partner & the kinks you won’t tell them about!
No matter what stage of your relationship, dating, long-term or fully committed, sharing your innermost taboo secrets with someone will seem like the most nerve-wracking thing in the world. But what if I told you the conversation could open you up to experiences you previously thought weren’t possible? What if the conversation led to foreplay or better yet raw, red-hot kinky sex!
Locktober 2021 – Chastity Training Program
You crave Her control and She craves controlling you. Countess Diamond has the encouragement, experience and “rewards” to get you through.
Chastity Keyholding
Chastity is next level submission, but the pleasure of denial is well with the effort. Countess diamond is an experienced and knowledgeable chastity keyholder.
Giving to receive or just giving?
ALL women love being spoiled from time to time, but when it’s a Domme, the stakes are a little higher. I have put together an invaluable little list of ways to gift your Domme, and just as importantly – how not to.
Long term BDSM relationships.
When we begin our kink journeys, we all hope to find someone we can share it all with, who is just as into the stuff you’re into, as you are.
March Madness: Porn Playoff Contenders
The wait is over – following my live stream yesterday on AVN Stars, I can now announce the kinks that will be competing in March Madness – The Porn Playoffs 2021
The Other Woman
Thrills can come from every avenue of our dark minds. Sexual tendencies aren’t linear and what you considered entirely off limits at first may be your current hottest high. This goes for exposure, ruination, home wreaking and blackmail too. Some clients invite this, they crave it.
March Madness – Porn Playoffs
In March 2021, I will be pitting fetishes against each other in a tournament which will determine the ultimate kink. Which fetish will be crowned Best Kink 2021? You decide.
How to deal with disharmony
When you begin engaging the services of a sex worker, you understand there is a transaction for services rendered. That’s how it starts, over time you can build up a great, mutually beneficial relationship. Some of these secret relationships can go on for years, they can blossom into what appears to be a friendship. Anyone who has successfully navigated a long-standing D/s with a Pro-Domme will have made mistakes along the way. We expect these mistakes, we can even forgive some occasionally.
Zelophilia – is this the gateway to cuckolding?
Zelophilia is the name for sexual arousal arising from feelings of jealousy. Jealousy is an incendiary emotion. It feels like a grenade, but for those with a cuck fantasy, they are willingly throwing themselves on the bomb as it goes off. They are absorbing and repurposing the damage that rips through them.
Shame on, you crazy Diamond.
Shame works so well in a BDSM play scene. The place where all dirty, shunned and taboo activities are allowed to breathe and be celebrated, insults add a finishing touch to the party. Because you are accepting your vulnerability, fully owning it all.
Naked Domination
Clothing and the lack of, is a powerful tool when establishing a power exchange… does this mean a naked Domme is less imposing? Less dominant?
The Office Role Play
A BDSM office role play doesnt take much imagination. A well-known hotbed of illicit affairs, with a hierarchy pre-installed, the power dynamic of an office role play is all set up and ready to go.
Denim
Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.
Duality
Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.
A Lion’s Tale
Happiness isn’t always going to find you, sometimes you’ve got to work for it.
How to Play Safe in BDSM
Whether you are planning to engage in BDSM games with a professional or a lifestyle partner, safety should come up in conversation before the first strike lands, or lock clicks. Personal responsibility and communication is vitally important in a fulfilling D/s.
Twisted Fire Starter
As a race we have been fascinated by fire since we first discovered it… it’s dangerous, it’s mesmerising. Who hasn’t found themselves lost in the glow of a fire? Or drawn in to stoking it, adding logs to a campfire and watching them as they crumble to ash.
Duality of Aftercare
I really hope the word “aftercare” isn’t unfamiliar to you.
I truly hope you all find a Dominant or play partner that cares about you after a scene.
Booty Call? All you Need to Know about Anal Play
It’s basic kinky etiquette to consider your partner in the chosen activity and scene. Never is this more important than with anal play. I can tell if someone has tried (or not) or if someone has rushed it. The last thing either of us wants is for a session to end before it’s even begun.
Mommy Issues- Exploring the Oedipus complex.
Much like a mother, I try to keep you safe and control your negative behaviours. Offering reassurance and stern levels of care, I am often a guide and looked to for answers – all while looking beautifully poised and put together.
It’s Christmas, Jim, but not as we know it.
What a shit show of a year guys and girls!
Earlier this month I was filling out my planner for 2021 and right at the start there’s a 2020 review section to reflect and summarise the best bits, your successes. I’ll be honest, it’s looking rather light.
The History of Latex Material And Its Use In Fashion
It was the Mackintosh particularly that elevated this most exotic of substances from mere clothing material into something far more sensual and sexual. The ability of latex to act as a shiny, tactile, sexy, second skin revolutionised sexuality within clothing. Thus, encouraging and enticing an ever-growing number of latex wear fetishists and enthusiasts.
Make It A December To Remember
When you were a kid, Christmas meant new toys! Such joy and expectation on Christmas Eve. waiting for the big man to creep into your bedroom (how did this not get classified as stranger danger!!?) Life was full of surprises and that made everything exciting. But, as we know all too well, that festive excitement fades as we get older, toys get boring and you’ve never got the right batteries at home when you need them!
Locktober 2020 – Roundup
Locktober is over… and It’s been a bumpy road for us all. I’ve felt both desperate to make you break and concerned that you were going to fall short of your self-made vow. I have to confess, the whole time I had my fingers crossed that you would make it. I want nothing more than to see you achieve great things, have willpower, have strength and conviction!
Femdom Treasure Hunt
I am beyond excited to announce a project that has been on the cards for a while now. The Siren, Miss Hyde and I have been quietly working away over the last few months to make a new, interactive, kink-focused experience to take the online femdom scene to the next level. Introducing…
Smoking Fetish
A villainess like me, with a flagrant disrespect for rules, that deliberately kicks against gender stereotypes and roles – hell yeah I smoke. A cigarette suggests an impervious layer of self assurance, that the smoker is a fearless risk taker. It’s a natural prop for my world.
Even talking about cigarettes is sexy. The words used to describe smoking are well….hot! Watching a woman smoking in person can be highly erotic and there is a growing demand for the Smoking fetish, both as part of my sessions and as a stand-alone kink.
Ownership and Rules
If you find yourself distracted by desires or overcome by thoughts that spin through your mind, ownership by a mistress is perfect for you.
Being owned by The Countess isn’t an easy job, but is a very rewarding one.
Knowing your mistresses kinks.
His physical suffering at my hand is my ultimate turn on. My aim is good, but I’d rather administer pain with my body somehow, than with an object.
Pain and pleasure in a BDSM play scene.
Pain is not just about body parts and nerve endings, it’s the output of the brain, the response that is designed to protect you. It’s not something that comes from the touch of the flogger itself, but the neurological sequence of events that lead up to that very moment, the explosion of agony that follows my hand.
5 reasons why your D/s relationship is failing.
As the D/s evolves over time, things can and will change. It’s part of the process, where a sub starts with me and where they finish is often so different, it’s kind of mind blowing.
But some changes can be detrimental to the D/s dynamic that you’ve worked so hard to create.
Anticipation
You start off knowing theres something you want. The perfect scene with the the perfect partner, all the details are there. The lighting is just right, the temperature is unnoticeable because it’s just perfect. There is no noise, no distractions. In fact, these outside influences don’t even cross your mind – its your fantasy. Why would you care that the number 10 bus is loading its passengers at the stop across the road because you chose to have your fantasy at 3:45 on a Tuesday? Because time doesn’t exists in fantasyland.
Exploring: ‘Do i have a foot fetish?’
As far as fetishes go, a sexual interest in feet is becoming more mainstream, and from what I hear it often leads you down the tunnel to further kinks. For most clients I speak with, this interest generally starts in their impressionable formative years.
Cherry Popping – Tips for Your First BDSM Session
First and foremost: Follow her rules. Or you will never even get to meet her. When inside the dungeon, listen and observe. She is trying to teach you how to behave in the way that she likes.
Is Submission A Weakness?
It takes so much strength of character to step over the line, past the point of no return into my dominion. It takes a combination of mental and physical strength to endure me, but that’s what you wanted, that’s what has been clawing at you from the inside all this time. The need to suffer at the hands of a beautiful Dominatrix has been swirling for so long, and you have battled yourself to take the first step. I appreciate all of this. I see and hear about it often. It can be overwhelming to give a voice to all those thoughts and fantasy scenarios that have kept you awake night after night.
Floggers
A small flogger, with slim falls may sit quietly unnoticed on a BDSM dungeon rack. It doesn’t have the grandeur of dominance Us Ladies tend to flock towards. But make no mistake, these inauspicious tools make up for their small stature with a deliciously rapturous sting.
Beware The Fall
Its that unwritten Duty of Care we have to keep in mind, that’s what you are really paying for. That while you think we are lost in that moment with you, we aren’t. We’re watching the rise and fall of your chest, moving our hands to feel that tightness of your collar. We are “ON” all the time, but the skill comes in appearing “OFF”.
Your Subscription Has Expired.
If sex workers built OnlyFans, they can tear it down. This will take a group of powerful women to do and … well, I know a fair few of them. However, as strong, capable and resilient as sex workers are they cannot do this alone.
The generosity of you, the subscriber and tipper who has supported them is also being taken for granted. 20% of what you spend is being syphoned off to fund a platform that will be unlikely to hold your favourite creator in the months and years to come.
What clients took for granted
I have realised that my clients have come to understand the positive value of the interactions they previously took for granted, that they used to get so much joy from, the important people they used to share these experiences with. We have collectively realised how we affect those around us, both positively and negatively, biologically and physiologically. It will feel amazing when they can go and see a provider again, and this time they say they will savour every moment, every detail.
Luscious Latex Lovers
Latex and BDSM go hand in shiny hand, it is a visual and sensual treat for so many of us. The smell of rubber itself is extremely provocative. It can cause a raging hard on, as can the touch of it. There is something about this material that works so well with the dungeon scene and the kink parties, its like a layer of us that we can apply or peel off, as we switch between the two worlds. But latex is as sensitive, exasperating and difficult at times as your Mistress can be.
Investing
Pushing her boundaries – Thinking that because you get on so well, you can message her when you feel like it, for free. That she’d want to hang out, go get a coffee … for free. That you basically begin to encroach on her personal time. You have made the fatal mistake of forgetting she is a service provider and has a life that she wants to keep separate from this. But because she is so good at her job, she’s made you feel special – you are starting to believe you should get special treatment. Sadly, you just sealed your own fate.
My Birthday
It would be a shame not to celebrate My birthday in style, especially as the world continues to be one step away from the credits rolling on its own disaster movie.
Latex care
Take care of what you love and it will love you back with interest. Latex is an investment for both both sides of the dungeon divide so here I have created a quick guide to the care and protection of this lush shiny stuff I call home.
Findom
I expect you to endure as much as you can to please me while I tease and test your limits and bring myself endless pleasure.
Necessity is the Mother of Invention
This is particularly true at the moment, with everyone trying to find ways to mimic the things we miss in the real world. While you are housebound, you may be tempted to contact me for some online BDSM play.
Taboo
Taboos are any sexual preferences or activities that have been demonised and shunned through mainstream media, society, and sexual norms. So it’s unsurprising so many still remain “off limits” in many relationships, which only makes them more appealing to those that are bored shitless of bedroom basics.
Chastity
There’s submission to your Domme, then there is total surrender to your Domme.
Truth
The best thing about BDSM in a professional setting, is that you should be able to finally set your true self free.
Evolving our Digital D/S
We do have to be thankful that we live in the rapidly expanding digital age. We have options, and I am determined to push online play to the edge.
Chastity Rules
There’s nowhere to hide once your in the dungeon. All your desires are laid bare.
Filming with Mistress Tess!
The incredible Mistress Tess and I are planning some filming in March. Tess and I are looking for reliable boys who are interested in taking their limits further than they thought possible.
Filming slaves needed.
@MissNeraSkye and I will be back in London and shooting for the prestigious @hoxtondommes at the @DungeonSuite in Hoxton on the 30th of January 2020.
All I want for Christmas is… Latex!
I have always had a love of latex, it’s everything!
It’s the way that it feels on my body, the way it heats and cools and hugs me close. I wear it round the house a lot and would happily wear it to the shops if i could deal with the gawking and gossip.
Femdom Ball 2019
Here’s the photos of my time at the 2019 Femdom Ball. It was a great night!
BritishFemdom.co.uk interview with The Countess!
While I’ve always been aware of my ability to collect hearts I started within ‘this life’ as a cam girl. From behind the camera I quickly became aware of the thrill of the power exchange. I practiced my art form, matured and evolved into the powerful whip wielding woman I am today
C4S
Yes it’s true… I’ve created a Clips4Sale account. Uploading some great video from my London Tour as we speak.
Bristol Welcomes Miss Anne Tittou!
I first met the mysterious Miss Anne Tittou in the summer of 2019 at an event in London. We were chatting about you – yes you submissives – and She was such a charming soul that we seemed to just click, there was instant familiarity. Her naturally dominant personality draws you in and makes you feel like you’ve known Her for years.
The South West Dominatrix Meet Up
Inspired by working alone, be that at home, on cam, on twitter or in a dungeon. The Pro Dominatrix / Sub / SW / Cam model meet-up is back!