All the BDSM Blogs by Countess Diamond

Countess Diamond offers her thoughts on BDSM, fetish, dominant and submissive relationships, as well as ethics and chastity.

“Part of being me is a need to champion things I believe in. To get the word out there and discuss the larger meaning of our existence, our wants and our desires in a thoughtful, practical way. Devoid of stereotypes, condemnation and judgement.

News – 20240111 – Kinkly – BDSM Branding

Kinkly.com11 January 2024 BDSM Branding Why do people engage in BDSM branding? Countess Diamond, a professional dominatrix from the United Kingdom, says “Permanent branding is considered the highest honor a dominant can bestow upon a submissive. It’s a visual dedication and symbolizes the bond between

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News – 20231124 – Metro – Smut Drop Podcast

Kirsten Robertson for Metro Newspaper24 November 2023 Podcast: ‘If you’re making thousands a day in the sex industry – you need to be paying that back’ Countess Diamond has built hundreds of thousands of followers on OnlyFans, flitting between clients to help them express all

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News – 20231107 – AVN – SXTech.EU

AVN7 November 2023 Countess Diamond Inspires Audience at SxTech EU Conference Countess Diamond, a figure within the BDSM community, made a presentation during her keynote speech at the SxTech EU conference, regarding how sex work and technology interact right now, and how she predicts they

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What is Subspace?

This neurochemical high can vary in intensity and duration. All BDSM players need to be aware of how to move forward, without a chemical crash.

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Measure for a chastity cage

If you’re buying a chastity cage for the first time don’t be tempted to add to your measurements. Adding more room for comfort or less to enhance the experience can easily lead to an ill-fitting device.

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Discrimination

Instead of accepting, supporting and helping their creators grow, they are locking down and shutting the gates without warning.

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Hiding Your Kinks​

Are you are struggling as a “double-lifer”? ​ A grown adult, and you’re still hiding your kinks from the world. You’re not alone.

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Diary of a Pregnant Dominatrix

In the hope that this aids the destigmatisation of consensual erotic labour and assists and educates those in the industry who might be about to embark on parenthood. I have decided to speak freely about my own experience.

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Poppers

If you are considering introducing poppers to your kinky play, take a moment to read this before diving in.

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The future of SW inBristol

Fight for fairness & equality You can help sex workers keep their workplaces open. On the 31st March 2022, Edinburgh City Council voted in favor of a ‘nil-cap’ on ‘Sexual Entertainment Venue’ (known as SEVs) licenses. The council claims this cap is needed due to

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Locktober

You crave Her control and She craves controlling you. Countess Diamond has the encouragement, experience and “rewards” to get you through.

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Body Confidence

With someone to hold you accountable, encourage exercise, and push you to make smarter decisions… you could change your life.

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What is BDSM

The BDSM community can seem alien when you first encounter it, but all it takes is a little patience and some basic research.

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Why Chastity?

To put it simply; it’s a power exchange. Imagine handing over control of something that’s so intrinsic to your identity, routine, and freedom.

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Three in the bed

Before you even attempt this potentially sex life changing conversation, you will want to be prepared. If you have read my other blogs you will know the importance of researching the kinks that get you excited, and exploring your own submissiveness.

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Disharmony In D/s

When you begin engaging the services of a sex worker, you understand there is a transaction for services rendered. That’s how it starts, over time you can build up a great, mutually beneficial relationship

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Zelophilia

Zelophilia is the name for sexual arousal arising from feelings of jealousy. Jealousy is an incendiary emotion. It feels like a grenade, but for those with a cuck fantasy, they are willingly throwing themselves on the bomb as it goes off.

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Shame on, you crazy Diamond.

Shame works so well in a BDSM play scene. The place where all dirty, shunned and taboo activities are allowed to breathe and be celebrated, insults add a finishing touch to the party. Because you are accepting your vulnerability, fully owning it all.

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Naked Domination

Clothing and the lack of, is a powerful tool when establishing a power exchange… does this mean a naked Domme is less imposing? Less dominant?

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The Office Role Play

A BDSM office role play doesnt take much imagination. A well-known hotbed of illicit affairs, with a hierarchy pre-installed, the power dynamic of an office role play is all set up and ready to go.

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Denim

Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.

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Wax Play

As a race we have been fascinated by fire since we first discovered it… it’s dangerous, it’s mesmerising. Who hasn’t found themselves lost in the glow of a fire? Or drawn in to stoking it, adding logs to a campfire and watching them as they crumble to ash.

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Mommy Issues- Exploring the Oedipus complex.

Much like a mother, I try to keep you safe and control your negative behaviours. Offering reassurance and stern levels of care, I am often a guide and looked to for answers – all while looking beautifully poised and put together.

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Make It A December To Remember

When you were a kid, Christmas meant new toys! Such joy and expectation on Christmas Eve. waiting for the big man to creep into your bedroom (how did this not get classified as stranger danger!!?) Life was full of surprises and that made everything exciting. But, as we know all too well, that festive excitement fades as we get older, toys get boring and you’ve never got the right batteries at home when you need them!

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Smoking Fetish

A villainess like me, with a flagrant disrespect for rules, that deliberately kicks against gender stereotypes and roles – hell yeah I smoke. A cigarette suggests an impervious layer of self assurance, that the smoker is a fearless risk taker. It’s a natural prop for my world.
Even talking about cigarettes is sexy. The words used to describe smoking are well….hot! Watching a woman smoking in person can be highly erotic and there is a growing demand for the Smoking fetish, both as part of my sessions and as a stand-alone kink.

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My Top 5 kinks

His physical suffering at my hand is my ultimate turn on. My aim is good, but I’d rather administer pain with my body somehow, than with an object.

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Pain and pleasure

Pain is not just about body parts and nerve endings, it’s the output of the brain, the response that is designed to protect you.

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Foot Fetish

As far as fetishes go, a sexual interest in feet is becoming more mainstream, and from what I hear it often leads you down the tunnel to further kinks.

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Sub & Domme Drop

Its that unwritten Duty of Care we have to keep in mind, that’s what you are really paying for. That while you think we are lost in that moment with you, we aren’t.

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BDSM Online

As technology continues to advance, we can expect to see even more opportunities for us to connect in more meaningful ways.

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Latex Care

Take care of what you love and it will love you back with interest. Latex is an investment for both both sides of the dungeon divide so here I have created a quick guide to the care and protection of this lush shiny stuff I call home. 

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Necessity is the Mother of Invention

This is particularly true at the moment, with everyone trying to find ways to mimic the things we miss in the real world. While you are housebound, you may be tempted to contact me for some online BDSM play. 

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Online Submission

We do have to be thankful that we live in the rapidly expanding digital age. We have options, and I am determined to push online play to the edge.

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