Investing in submission

You've waited to do this, so do it well.

Unless you are a kinkster, that is just looking for a hit of BDSM on an opportunistic basis, you should really take your time selecting the right Dominatrix. You’ve waited a long time to do this, another day of careful reading, cross-checking a few things is a smart move.

Are you ready?

To serve Me, or session with Me you must already be a subscriber to one of My online platforms. If you're not already, I suggest messaging Me with a short introduction to break the ice.

Ideally, you want to find a Dominatrix that you can devote yourself to long term, because that is when a bond is formed. You can truly reap the rewards of that time spent sifting through websites, reading up, learning. You have to be prepared to invest time as well as money to get what you want and need!

There are plenty of us out there, but not all that glitters is gold!

A caring, sensual Domme

I will protect you as fiercly as I destroy you

Please do some research, as you would with any significant investment. Read info on the website, contact her politely, ask sensible, cautious questions (that don’t focus solely on your dick). Look at the venue she uses. What is she like, what does she like? What does she NOT like? Are you going to be a good fit?

Let say you do all this, you think I am the one for you. You book a session (online or real-time) and we get on great, the weeks and months pass. This is more than you could have hoped for, you feel so close to me, its the best feeling ever. Now you have a new fear, the fear of pissing me off and losing me.

You are growing as a submissive and your boundaries are being gently pushed. You are loving it, you’d hate to mess up, right?

Let me tell you the number 1 way every “special” sub screws it up…. you ready?

Pushing my boundaries – Thinking that because we get on so well, you can message me when you like, how you like, for free. That I’d want to hang out, go get a coffee … for free. That you basically begin to encroach on her personal time. You have made the fatal mistake of forgetting she is a service provider and has a life that she wants to keep separate from this. But because she is so good at her job, she’s made you feel special – you are starting to believe you should get special treatment. Sadly, you just sealed your own fate.

Cerebral Control

Finally, you can set yourself free

Emotional boundaries are as sacred a physical ones. We both need to feel emotionally and physically safe to be able to enjoy our time together. It’s an amazing thing to feel understood. As a Dominant woman, that seems so strong and impenetrable (on every level!) it can be easy to forget we have feelings too. We are trusting you not to cross any of the lines we set out at the start, and to understand and observe the fundamentals of our D/S.

You’re getting to discover so much more about yourself, and this is what you are “buying”. It’s an experience. Don’t forget that crucial detail, and if you ever feel that line is blurring, I need you to know that it is only blurring for you. I know exactly what I am doing, and where that stops, part of my job, however, is to lure you, to seduce you. But remain utterly unattainable. That is part of the game, that is what you are signing up for. So you don’t get to be indignant when I put you back in your place, or tell you to take a time out. Which may or may not turn out to be a permanent time out, depending on how far you pushed it and how many warnings I have given you.

If you can comprehend and process the above, this is what you get to have:

My scheduled attention

My trust

An evolving and deepening experience

Priority spots for accompanying me to events & prime time sessions

Submit to the pull of the tide

Drift away into my darkness

It is also worth mentioning that my boundaries are mine, and if I choose to soften them I am at liberty to do so. It is not at all unheard of for me to spend time with a sub that has been close to me outside a session. But that is at my discretion and he compensates me because he gets it. I don’t even need to remind him that my time is at a premium. It is this level of commitment and understanding that got him there in the first place.

He realises that tributing my time doesn’t negate the intensity or intimacy of our relationship. It just underscores the basis of it. It shows total respect for my profession, which I work so hard at.

The moment you think you get anything for free, is the moment you risk losing me. I have taken the time to write this because it happens over and over. It is easily avoided if you stick to the rules.

Fetish Connection

How screens are changing the accessibility of kink.

My Top 5 Kinks

Take a look at what turns Me on and see if our interests match.

During & After

Have you ever wondered what happens when we session?