Chastity Tips and Tricks

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All the tips and tricks, collated over the years from industry experts, mistresses and well practiced locked servants. 

About Chastity Cages

While cages are not entirely necessary, if you do wish to indulge they enhance the feeling of confinement and therefore submission.

Silicone cages are ideal for beginners, short term wear and getting used to the idea of confinement. These are also cheaper and help you find the right shape and size, for just enough pinch and squeeze. Then the metal ones, are where it starts to get serious and you can even stop up a level with a urethral cage.

Measuring For a Chastity Cage

While different fits will provide different experiences if you’re buying a cage for the first time don’t be tempted to add to your measurements. Adding more room for comfort or less to enhance the experience can easily lead to an ill fitting device. 

Remember, a cage is only as good as the measurements you take. Always measure your penis in a relaxed state. The measuring tape should be snug but not tight. 

Use a fabric tape measure or a string and a ruler. Take a measurement at different times of the day to find an average. 

You will need to measure the underside of your flaccid penis from tip to base. You’ll also need the circumference of your penis girth for the cage sizing. As well as the circumference from behind the balls and base of the penis to get the ring diameter.

Don’t neglect the ball gap! This is the space through which your two fiends will sit. Usually this is between 8mm-10mm.

The First Few Days

You’re keen to experience the thrills of chastity. To avoid disappointment you’ll need to control your excitement. Begin with wearing for 10 minutes and see how things feel, slowly increase your time in the cage.

There’s no doubt you’ll experience discomfort in the early days, but at no point should you experience physical pain. If this happens remove the chastity cage.

Don’t sleep in the cage until you’re completely at ease with it.

While redness is common, you should not go purple – this is a sign of restricted blood flow. If you feel any pinching or rubbing remove the chastity cage immediately.

Maintenance and Keys

You don’t always need a cage, you just need some effort. In fact the more complex a cage is, the more problems can arise from them. Digital locks, spikes, electro shocks all have the pul of the fantasy but trust the expert see; these rarely prove wearable, let alone successful.

Some resin cages will go soft at temperatures above 70c. If a little adjustment is needed you can submerge it in hot water for 20 seconds at a time.

Sometimes metal barrel locks can get stiff, or worse break (i’m looking at you Jeeves!). So keep them lubricated and keep an eye out for any rusting, cracks or dents. 3D printed cages can have small print marks, the best way to tackle these, is with some super fine sandpaper. 

Urban Myths

Contrary to urban legend; Dommes don’t throw away keys. A good Dominatrix will know that hygiene and regular unlocking keeps everyones play happy and healthy.

Oestrogen cream won’t shrink your member, but extremely extended chastity might begin to effect your size.

Long Term Success

Having the someone hold your key, someone who will keep you in check and accountable is always going to be a great way to stay locked. Be sure you’ve chosen your intended key holder well. Read her website and get to know her style to be sure she’s the one for you. 

Body Hair

Body hair is a natural moisture balancer, remove it with a close shave or wax treatment and you’re going to begin to feel rubbing and sweaty! The best option is a neat trim, keeping any long hairs for getting caught while still providing the all important moisture wicking.

Find your place in My world

You have a dark sexual need for submission to a Dominant Woman that won’t fade and despite your best efforts, it has taken root in your mind. It swirls around in your head after dark and somehow, it’s led you here. To Her. 

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