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Thoughts on BDSM, fetish and... ethics.

The Countess offers her thoughts on BDSM, fetish, dominant and submissive relationships… as well as ethics and chastity.

“Part of being me is a need to champion things I believe in. To get the word out there and discuss the larger meaning of our existence, our wants and our desires in a thoughtful, practical way. Devoid of stereotypes, condemnation and judgement.

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Back to BDSM basics

The BDSM community can seem alien when you first encounter it, but all it takes is a little patience and some basic research. This is not the Illuminati, or the Masons – there is no ritual, human sacrifice or handshake to get in – you just have to learn how to interact with people all over again.

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All My Thoughts

The most read and shared BDSM blogs from Bristols top BDSM Mistress, Countess Diamond. 

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Denim

Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.

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Duality

Many of us with kinks spend the early part of our lives feeling bad or wrong or broken. But we are none of those things. I suspect that most people, the majority of the population, are turned on by things other than genitals. It is subtleties we find erotic, extras that turn us on mentally.

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How to Play Safe in BDSM

Whether you are planning to engage in BDSM games with a professional or a lifestyle partner, safety should come up in conversation before the first strike lands, or lock clicks. Personal responsibility and communication is vitally important in a fulfilling D/s.

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Twisted Fire Starter

As a race we have been fascinated by fire since we first discovered it… it’s dangerous, it’s mesmerising. Who hasn’t found themselves lost in the glow of a fire? Or drawn in to stoking it, adding logs to a campfire and watching them as they crumble to ash.

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Duality of Aftercare
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Duality of Aftercare

I really hope the word “aftercare” isn’t unfamiliar to you.

I truly hope you all find a Dominant or play partner that cares about you after a scene.

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All you Need to Know about Anal Play
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Booty Call? All you Need to Know about Anal Play

It’s basic kinky etiquette to consider your partner in the chosen activity and scene. Never is this more important than with anal play. I can tell if someone has tried (or not) or if someone has rushed it. The last thing either of us wants is for a session to end before it’s even begun.

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Mommy Issues- Exploring the Oedipus complex.

Much like a mother, I try to keep you safe and control your negative behaviours. Offering reassurance and stern levels of care, I am often a guide and looked to for answers – all while looking beautifully poised and put together.

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It’s Christmas, Jim, but not as we know it.

What a shit show of a year guys and girls!

Earlier this month I was filling out my planner for 2021 and right at the start there’s a 2020 review section to reflect and summarise the best bits, your successes. I’ll be honest, it’s looking rather light.

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The History of Latex Material And Its Use In Fashion

It was the Mackintosh particularly that elevated this most exotic of substances from mere clothing material into something far more sensual and sexual. The ability of latex to act as a shiny, tactile, sexy, second skin revolutionised sexuality within clothing. Thus, encouraging and enticing an ever-growing number of latex wear fetishists and enthusiasts.

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Make It A December To Remember

When you were a kid, Christmas meant new toys! Such joy and expectation on Christmas Eve. waiting for the big man to creep into your bedroom (how did this not get classified as stranger danger!!?) Life was full of surprises and that made everything exciting. But, as we know all too well, that festive excitement fades as we get older, toys get boring and you’ve never got the right batteries at home when you need them!

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Locktober 2020 – Roundup

Locktober is over… and It’s been a bumpy road for us all. I’ve felt both desperate to make you break and concerned that you were going to fall short of your self-made vow. I have to confess, the whole time I had my fingers crossed that you would make it. I want nothing more than to see you achieve great things, have willpower, have strength and conviction!

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Femdom Treasure Hunt

I am beyond excited to announce a project that has been on the cards for a while now. The Siren, Miss Hyde and I have been quietly working away over the last few months to make a new, interactive, kink-focused experience to take the online femdom scene to the next level. Introducing…

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Smoking Fetish

A villainess like me, with a flagrant disrespect for rules, that deliberately kicks against gender stereotypes and roles – hell yeah I smoke. A cigarette suggests an impervious layer of self assurance, that the smoker is a fearless risk taker. It’s a natural prop for my world.
Even talking about cigarettes is sexy. The words used to describe smoking are well….hot! Watching a woman smoking in person can be highly erotic and there is a growing demand for the Smoking fetish, both as part of my sessions and as a stand-alone kink.

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Ownership and Rules

If you find yourself distracted by desires or overcome by thoughts that spin through your mind, ownership by a mistress is perfect for you.
Being owned by The Countess isn’t an easy job, but is a very rewarding one.

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Chastity Focus

Chastity, is one of Countess Diamond’s favourite fetishes. It’s versatile, effective and accessible and best of all can be done very discreetly. Delve into one of the most teasing, yet rewarding of all the fetishes. 

Latex Focus

There is something about this material that works so well with the dungeon scene and the kink parties, its like a layer of us that we can apply or peel off, as we switch between the two worlds. But latex is as sensitive, exasperating and difficult at times as your Mistress can be.

Fetish Focus

From the basics in bondage, to exploring the darkest taboos. Here you will find all sorts of specific fetishes from the mainstream, niche and extra naughty sides of BDSM life.

Dynamics Focus

Understanding the nuanced social dynamics as well as protocol and etiquette within BDSM is never going to be easy. This narrative, from Countess Diamonds perspective is an account her of experience, thoughts and relationships and not intended to be the final word on such subjects.

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